What Really Works in Couples Therapy
Are you wondering what truly works in Couples Therapy or Marriage Counseling? If so, you’re not alone. Many couples struggling with intimacy, communication, trust, or even past trauma ask the same question. Taking the step to try Couples Counseling is a brave decision—but not every approach delivers the results people hope for. That’s why I use Solution Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT), a method that often helps couples create lasting, positive change.
Many couples who contact me share that they’ve tried therapy before but left feeling frustrated. They often tell me: “It just didn’t work. We ended up fighting more.” What I love to explain is how my approach is different. Rather than dwelling on problems, I help couples build on their strengths, identify what’s working, and move toward the future they want together.
If you’ve tried therapy before and found that it only led to more arguments, you’re not alone. Traditional models often emphasize conflict—focusing heavily on what’s wrong. While those techniques can sometimes help in Individual Therapy, they often backfire in Couples Therapy. Instead of bringing you closer, the session itself can turn into another fight, reinforcing the idea that you’re incompatible. But there’s a better way forward.
I’ve found that the most effective path is Solution Focused Brief Therapy.
Let me share a quick story.
When I was a kid, my father was an avid cyclist. One day I begged to ride along with him and his friend. As we passed a construction site, the road was scattered with rocks and debris. Determined to avoid them, I stared at the obstacles—and ended up hitting every single one! Frustrated, I nearly fell. Then my dad’s friend turned and said, “Don’t focus on the rocks. Focus next to them, and you’ll naturally steer around.” Sure enough, it worked. My bike followed my focus.
That moment became the foundation for how I now see therapy.
This is Solution Focused Brief Therapy in action: where you focus is where you go. When couples spend session after session focusing on problems, they often end up with more of the same. But when they focus on strengths, solutions, and goals, real progress begins.
Think about driving: if you stare in the side mirror or at the car next to you for too long, your vehicle drifts that way. To stay on course, you have to focus forward. In the same way, Couples Counseling works best when it points you toward your desired outcome—not your past conflicts.
At Brighter Beams Family Therapy, I use Solution Focused Brief Therapy for Couples Therapy to help you and your partner:
Refocus on what matters most in your relationship
Strengthen communication and trust
Create solutions that move you toward the future you want together
Rather than staying stuck in cycles of conflict, you’ll leave with new perspectives and practical ways to reconnect. Many couples find this approach feels lighter, more hopeful, and more effective than other models.
In future posts, I’ll share more about how Solution Focused Brief Therapy helps couples repair relationships and rediscover closeness. Until then, I’d love to hear from you. If you’re ready to see how Couples Therapy in South Jordan, UT can help your relationship thrive, reach out today.
